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The following material was written for people trying to recover from a relationship that's had toxic consequences for them, and is not intended as a support resourse for Borderlines or anyone with BPD traits.
If you suspect that you have these traits, please leave this website and redirect your attention to iven the hundreds of letters I get from men who desperately "want to help" the Borderline after their troubling affair has ended, I suppose this article's time has finally come.
Your altruism might be noble, if it weren't masking sense of emptiness and emotional impotency where she's concerned.
What's unfortunate, is your Ego is in serious need of mending in the aftermath of this relationship, yet much of your attention is still focused on how to make things better for her, help her avoid ruining other men's lives--and needing to think you've made some kind of Even if you've become "really close" with her family members or friends, and you feel an irrepressible need to share with them your newfound knowledge about Borderline Personality traits after countless hours of Internet research you'll only reflex that helps us defend against facing that which we're not ready to confront, and it's there to protect us.
The Borderline Waif mother typically scapegoats her children for their father's rage and abuse, rather than boldly intervening and protecting them from it, or taking her kids away to safety~ yet she may have held the flame that ignited his anger! Did he return home to a nagging, discontent or depressed wife after slaying dragons and putting out fires all day at work?