Dating within the workplace

by  |  12-Jun-2017 06:48

While the axiom, “Don’t mix business with pleasure,” is one that most everyone knows, it isn’t necessarily a rule all people follow.

For some, the promise of a relationship with someone who shares similar values on a comparable career path is enticing, making the office into not just a place of business, but also the home of a budding romance.

And you can indeed have a policy that requires one of the parties to move on if a relationship happens.

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Throw in the fact that they have a pattern of firing the women in these couples but not the men, and there’s something pretty disturbing there.

I’d say that you have to decide if you want to work for a company that operates that way.

The employer can act on its suspicions and circumstantial evidence.” This is basically the same as if your employer suspected you of violating any other policy (or even doing something they didn’t like, whether prohibited by a policy or not): If, for instance, your employer suspected you of being rude to clients or watching too much You Tube at your desk, they wouldn’t need to present you with evidence. In this case, though, Bryan goes on to say that they’d still be wise to only act if they have solid evidence: “Acting on flimsy suspicions would only serve to alienate employees, lower morale because they fear ‘big brother’ is prying into their personal lives, and risk losing good and loyal employees without a good reason.

If an employee was let go under this policy without solid evidence and that employee came back and alleged the real reason for the discharge was gender, race, age, etc., then the employer would have a weak defense since its ‘legitimate business reason’ for the termination was so flimsy.” So there are the facts on legality. From the employer’s side, there are all kinds of reasons not to want couples in your organization — but banning dating upon penalty of firing is a very old-fashioned policy and out of touch with how most modern workplaces operate.

If you think a collegial relationship you have might be morphing into a more amorous one, consider the ethical implications of letting this happen.

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